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How to Get Your Quiet Dad Talking: 6 Simple Ways to Connect This Father’s Day

If your dad is a man of few words—you’re not alone.

Many dads actually wish they could connect more with their kids, but sometimes they don’t know how to start. In fact, research shows that fathers often report communicating with their children less often than they’d like. But with a few simple conversation starters for dads, you can help bridge that gap—and open the door to a more meaningful connection.

If you’ve been wondering how to talk to your dad—especially if he tends to be the “strong, silent type”—this Father’s Day is the perfect time to try.

Here are 6 easy, thoughtful ways to connect with your father (and maybe even get him talking more than you thought possible):

1. Meet him where he is—literally

If your dad loves doing, meet him there. Whether it’s working in the garage, tending the garden, or fixing dinner—join him.

Some of the best conversations happen when his hands are busy and there’s no pressure to “sit down and talk.”

Think: “pass me that wrench” moments, not interviews. You’ll be amazed what naturally comes up.

2. Sit next to him, not in front of him

Want to know how to talk to your dad without making him feel uncomfortable? Sit next to him, not across from him.

Eye contact can feel intimidating. Sitting side-by-side—at a ballgame, during a drive, even on the couch—makes it easier to talk casually.

A small question during an ordinary moment can open the door.

3. Focus on the story, not the feelings

Dads love telling stories—and that’s where the feelings live.

Instead of asking, “How do you feel about…,” try questions like:

• “What was your first car?”

• “What was your favorite memory growing up?”

• “What was the best advice your dad gave you?”

When you focus on the story, the emotions come through naturally—even if they aren’t directly spoken.

4. Try a different way to communicate

If face-to-face conversation isn’t happening, try another way to connect.

Send a text. Write a note. Share a memory or photo in an email.

Connecting with your father is a process—not a one-time talk. And sometimes writing feels safer and gives him more time to reflect.

5. Lead with humor

Laughter can open the door to deeper conversation.

Show your dad a funny video, share a joke, or send him a meme. Humor helps break the ice, ease the mood, and lead to more open connection.

If the “front door” isn’t working—try a side window. Humor is often the best way in.

6. Ask for help

Dads often feel most comfortable when they can offer advice or guidance.

Next time you want to connect, ask his opinion on something meaningful—like a life decision, a home project, or even a recipe tip.

You’ll hear more than just practical advice—you’ll hear what matters to him, often in ways he wouldn’t say directly.

Final Thought:

Connecting with your father doesn’t have to mean having a deep heart-to-heart out of the blue.

It can start with small gestures, thoughtful questions, a shared project, or even a good laugh.

And often, those little moments turn out to be the ones you treasure most.

This Father’s Day, why not start? 

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  Originally aired on 06/13/25 for WGN Radio 720.